Who needs family?

I can’t straightly say a no to that question, neither do I want to say yes. If you live by yourself in your own world, of course there will be no problems, no conflict of interests, no need for interaction, no need for care for others. It’s too much trouble, why bother.

I don’t want a family, even though I have one. I don’t want to have to care what they feel, I don’t want to have to reflect on every single thing I do/say, if that would make them happy or sad.

But one can’t not have a family. Because it is the family who supports you for the first 10+ to 20+ years of your life until you are capable of taking care of yourself.

So you are stuck with them. I don’t know how other families cope with it, but I find mine a rather stressful experience - makes me think, how did the relationships become like this, we may not seem like it on the surface but it wasn’t the family we see when we were young. Makes me think, if I hadn’t been born, I wouldn’t have to go through this then.

But since I’m here, I’m seriously thinking of ways to get out. Marriage is one. Yes you marry for love, but there could be a possibility that you think that is true love when it probably isn’t. (Then again, what is true love?) Maybe ultimately, sub-consciously, people form their own family unit just so they can get away from the old one. Seems like when you have your own family, your old family interfere less of your business. That’s convenient, isn’t it?

One day, you will become that “old family” and everything cycles through again.

When I am sad, when I am happy, the first person I go to is not my “old family” but my spouse (or “new family”). That speaks something. The past 20+ years of living with the old family, is not as significant as someone who you’ve been with for just a few years.

That is humans.